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Being a housewife in the 21st century puts you in a controversial position.
Many people believe housewives are nurturing their families, making homes and building up society. Others are convinced housewives are old fashioned Looking for the house wife outdated, responsible for thwarting the efforts of women who work outside the home and insulting the memory of those who worked so hard to obtain equal rights for women. We are all different, with different lifestyles and circumstances.
Some of us have never worked outside the home, many of us have. Most of us are well educated — some of us are biochemists, neuroscientists, doctors, lawyers and more. Most of us are so busy that we get up earlier and go to bed later to try to fit more hours in the day. Most of us are well-educated, and many of us have degrees. Some of us have left well-paying jobs to take on our role as housewives. We are well informed, politically active, contributing members of our communities who are just as comfortable discussing politics and socio-economic policy as anything else.
Most housewives ARE feminists. The majority of housewives believe in that right no matter whether a woman decides to work outside the home, be a housewife or become prime minister. Feminism Looking for the house wife meant to give women the right to choose, not dictate or restrict the choices we can make. My husband and I look on our roles as a partnership, no one of us above the other.
We each perform roles that enhance the other, but they sometimes overlap. For example, I may do most of the cooking, but my husband who is an awesome cook, but rarely has time for it will often clean up the kitchen after supper. Yes, there were things I gave up over the years to be at home, but equally, I am continually inspired and humbled by the way my husband puts my needs and the needs of our family above his own. Not every woman wants to be a housewife nor should they be. We know that there is no proof that children raised by stay at home moms are any happier or well adjusted than those raised by women who work outside the home — or vice versa.
The decision to become a housewife or stay at home mom can have far reaching financial complications in the 21st century. Having only one income can mean having to tighten your belt and make sacrifices. It can mean spending years on a tight budget and struggling to make ends meet. While my husband and I now enjoy a very comfortable lifestyle, this was definitely the case for us for the first several years of our marriage.
Many of us contribute to the family finances either through savings we have built up in earlier years or via working part time at home. We bring value to our homes by the tasks that we perform. Ever priced up hiring a nanny, personal assistant, housekeeper and ant? Enough said.
In a nutshell, being a housewife in the 21st century is a profession in and of itself, a vocation and a labour of love. If you enjoyed this post you may also like Are You a Professional Housewife? Save Save. But I suppose, as a society, we unfortunately have thousands of years of history in thinking we know best for the choices made by others concerning politics, religion, and so on.
Sorry that you have to deal with this, April. Thank you, Pauline. I agree, as a society we do have a long history of thinking we know best for others — you put that very well! Well said. I worked part time when I was single, then a little bit during our marriage, but I prefer staying home full time. Some women assume I want all women to stay home and it is not the case! We are all awesome and do things differently but as long as we are trying our best and loving our kids then life is good!
Thanks for linking up with the bestoftheblogosphere. Thank you, Emmy! So refreshing to read as a newly housewife myself and I love it! I was worried about others opinions now I am fine! I am so glad that this resonated with you, and that it helped! Thank you so much for your kind comment. I agree. Feminism brought us choices.
We should support and cheer each other on in our various paths. April, I love your article! I was able to be a housewife when we were raising our four children, if we needed some extra money I found things I could do out of the home to earn money. Now that our children are grown I still enjoy being a housewife! I find I never have enough time to do all the things I want to! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! People today can often be a bit too outspoken about things that are none of their business! I know women who are housewives and women who have careers outside the home.
One of the housewives who comes to mind takes on so very much that she recently had a heart attack. We are only human after all! My partner male has had longer times of unemployment and in recent years has been working from home. Although we have never chosen to arrange our family so that one of us is a full-time homemaker, that certainly seems like a valid way to do things. Thanks for the great blog post April. I agree x !! If we could only add a few more hours to the day too, that would be nice lol! That is so true, Jenny! Loved this! It means supporting and encouraging each other in a world with equal opportunities for all.
Wishing you all the best at this exciting time! I am also a mother of two children. One just past the first decade of life, the other not halfway through. I am professionally qualified, am good at my work if I may say so myself. I also have always wanted to work.
As in be gainfully employed. As in earn in hard cash. As in be someone Looking for the house wife can claim to have a direct financial contribution to the family. I have worked from before marriage, and have just continued doing so. Never thought seriously that I should not…. It helped that I have an understanding family. Ma in law who pitches in and hubby who does not mind the house going bonkers when my office workload hits the roof, which happens like every other day. I am not advocating that you should or should not work.
Rather, am just putting in my two bit of wisdom. The comparision between ladies of leisure and working woman applies starkly in two situations: 1. The working woman is a 9to 5er, who works at a lowly position to help in the finances, to ensure food on the table the next week, or, to ensure that kids can go to college. The lady of leisure is a lady of leisure because she chooses to be one, i.
Most housewives, and that is a misnomer, if any, which I too agree complain that its unfair to say they dont work. They do. And I agree to it too. That they might not directly be paying bills, but are saving a lot of money in not making hubbies pay through the nose for them. But look at it from the other side of the spectrum. We as working women, do the household stuff and THEN go to office. At least those who are doing the job because they need th money. We get up early, pack the kids lunch boxes, our own, clean up the house, lock up and go to the office to work eight to ten, sometimes more, hours.
We come back, do all that needs to be done though laundry and dirty dishes are the last on the to do list make kids study, listen to their worries, be nurse, psychologist, teacher cook maid etc etc. We miss out on seeing the summer bloom, the winter frost, we miss out on most of the kids milestones, because we have to work.
We feel envy when we see the lunch ladies, which admittedly they went after serious planning et all, but which we cant, because a half day leave that we would need from office for that lunch date, is so much better utilised in taking kids to the dentist. So lady friends of mine, before you pat yourselves on the back saying the women who work are being sarcastic, please read this carefully: 1. Now tell me, who is being smug, intolerant and is backbiting.
And last but not the least, since feminism is about choices, it should be both ways, we respect yours, you respect ours. And not just choices but everything, including our situations. It might be that if our situations are reversed, we might both be unable to cope. Thank you for your comment but you have completely misread and misinterpreted my article.
Every family makes tough choices and I am so sorry you feel so bitter. I am very sad that you have taken my article — which was meant to be supportive of both women who work outside the home and women who are housewives as well as to be a positive reinforcement of how women need to stick together and not criticise one another — and twisted it the way that you have. I hope that you manage to find some happiness in the future — it Looking for the house wife like you have had to work so hard that you have missed much joy.
Thanks April. The bitterness in part may also come from envy on my side, since I do not consider myself to have had a very hard life anyway. God has been kind to me in myraid ways. It is also, in part because we belong to two very diverse regions, India, is not a very conducive place to have a career.
But being a housewife is way easier since help is cheap here. So maybe I was bringing my regional experience, which you obviously would not be able to relate to. Best of luck to you too. Hi again April! I am married to my husband, not them! Do you ever get those? If so, how do you react?
I need some help! Hi there! Having said that, I also think you should definitely calmly disagree with them. If you prefer, you can me at april apriljharris. I hope this helps!
Thanks, it helps! Those are mean comments and very untrue as well! Most commenters have been working women, although there has been men as well. Honestly, no one should have to feel that folks are questioning them like that. I do hope some of my suggestions hope and it gets better.Looking for the house wife
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